The Word Acceptance Has Many Meanings.
The word ’Acceptance‘ is a ten letter word that has many different meanings. In life we are given all sorts of things to accept. There are some things we do that others accept and there are some things they don’t accept. Some things are easier to accept, then others.
Some people can accept that we are born to die and there are others who can not accept this. I’ve seen friendships broken because one friend can’t accept the view of the other person. I’ve seen the consequences of one action have an acceptance of one person and a non-acceptance of another person.
When dealing with a chronic illness, there are many things we must chose to accept, or not accept. There are those who totally accept things, and those who don’t accept things at all. Then there are the people who act like they accept things, but really don’t accept things. I’ve had to learn to respect other peoples views, may not be the same as mine.
My Aunt chooses not to talk about having lupus. I have to accept that my Aunt chooses not to talk about the lupus. I am the opposite because I talk freely about having lupus. It does not make either of our choices wrong or right. It just means each of us must accept each others views. One of the ways I deal with the lupus is by doing this blog.
Everything in life holds a whole lot of acceptance. Today’s acceptance may not be the same tomorrow. Things that are accepted today, may not be accepted tomorrow. There are many examples of things that were not accepted today, but will be accepted tomorrow or even ten years from today.
May 27 2008 04:09 pm | Uncategorized
May 28th, 2008 at 3:55 am
So very true. I have an aunt that does not accept much, and she has made some people so sad. Why not accept what we can not change? Life is short.
May 28th, 2008 at 2:35 pm
hey chronic chick!
~i can understand both sides of this. at first, i talked openly about having lupus. but i had so many negative reactions, with folks basically blaming me for getting sick, or worrying ti was contagious, or treating me differently, or thinking i was a hypochondriac. one friend even told me to “get over it” because i’d been talking about it for like a year. (well, I still have it, i’m still trying to come to terms with it, and those feelings were no less intense one year after diagnosis than they were one week after diganosis.)
i can’t expect people to get it if they haven’t had to deal with a serious illness, so i choose where and where and to whom i speak about this. oddly, i find i cna be very open about it online and people don’t attack me online. usually people are polite in real life and rude online where they can be anonymous, but in the case of illness, i find it to be quite the opposite, because people are frightened by their own mortality and vulnerability, and we are walking reminders of both.
so while i may have come to terms with having lupus, i realize the rest of the world has not come to terms with their own vulnerabilities, so my not talking about it openly has nothing to do with my own acceptance of the illness, as much as not wanting to subject myself to the weird and sometimes cruel responses of others.
May 30th, 2008 at 3:33 pm
hi dropping here
June 1st, 2008 at 11:03 am
Hi…your website is amazing. I was wondering if you could link mine in your links page. If so, I would appreciate it so much. Thanks, Ali
June 1st, 2008 at 2:37 pm
My aunt also refused to speak about her lupus for many years. Once I was diagnosed, she broke her silence. Since then, she’s served as a great sounding board and a tremendous support for me.
Thanks for this post.
June 2nd, 2008 at 12:23 pm
I agree. Somtimes even if we know that acceptance will give us the peace that our heart need, we still insist not to accept
June 2nd, 2008 at 9:03 pm
Hi! It’s Sandy from Fighting Fatigue. I have another site I would like to exchange links with you. It is an Interstitial Cystitis site at the link in my name. I’ll go ahead and add you there. Great job here!
June 3rd, 2008 at 10:50 pm
So very true on both sides of the coin. Your aunt may have accepted having Lupus but doesn’t want to talk about it. Maybe she’s afraid of sounding like she’s complaining. You talk about it and write about it because you’re an advocate. And you do it very well too!
June 4th, 2008 at 8:25 pm
Great post! I just found you through Lupus Pie, and your blog is great. I’d love to put a link to your site on my blog. Check it out at http://www.despitelupus.blogspot.com when you have a chance.
And as far as “acceptace” goes…I read a pretty good Lupus book about the difference between “accepting” a disease and “adapting” to it. It was called “Celebrate Life” and here’s the link, if you’re interested: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0912423242.
Hope to hear from you!
June 6th, 2008 at 6:12 pm
Hello, hopping here and payinga a visit