May 29th, 2009
Having a teenage daughter, I have enlightened her about all obstacles of growing up. We had the typical Mother-Daughter talks about the facts of being a woman. As she’s got older we have a lot of talks about the real world. I have found that some of the talks are easier and some are harder. Trying to explain things without her being scared of the real world has been difficult as she’s a high anxiety teenager. One of the hardest things to explain to her why woman have hair on their legs, but we have to shave them. Yeah, I know it sounds crazy, but that’s one of her biggest concerns. She doesn’t like to have even one hair on her legs. She’s at that age that the smallest things seem like the end of the world. Finally, I told her about getting permanent hair removal when she gets older is an option. I explained that she should check into all her options prior to having any optional procedure done. I did look it up myself and found some good information about it online about it feeling like a small sting on the skin which is good because she doesn’t cope with pain well. That probably goes back to having a Mom who lives with chronic pain. I did explain to her that it would take multiple times to remove all the hair. This seems to give her some piece of mind until the next teenage saga and trust me their will be many more.
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Hi… I follow your blog and was intrigued with your writing that “…because she doesn’t cope with pain well. That probably goes back to having a Mom who lives with chronic pain.” I started having Lupus symptoms three or four years ago and finally, six month ago, received a diagnoisis of Lupus (SLE). I’ve noticed that my sons, 17 and 10, have both become very sensitive to any pain and become slight hypochondriacs. I used to feel they both had really high tolerance for discomfort too. In thinking about it I wondered if it could be because of what they seen me go through over the last few years but thought I was probably “blaming Lupus for everything” (which I had someone accuse me of not too long ago). Reading what you wrote has sort of made me feel justified in thinking that. And that is good because if watching me struggle with finding a diagnosis, then hopefully they will learn something from watching me cope more positively now that I have medical help and hope.
Thanks for sharing your life with Lupus, Fibro and Pain… it really helps to hear what others go through and how they deal. God bless you.
I’m going through something similar with my 10 year old. It’s a shame they grow up so young now a days.
Connie Foogles,
I hate seeing my baby grow up so fast. I’ve told her she’ll always be my baby girl.
CC
Ann,
I think kids deal with a parents chronic illness differently. My daughter acts out at times when I’m flaring,which makes it worse for me. I think part of its fear and the other part is anger deep down.
CC